Saturday, September 30, 2017



Beware of people who enter your life in a forceful way. There three types of people who can enter our hearts:

Those who are invited to by the heart...they enter and leave peacefully, without a lot of drama...

There are those who enter and want to stay by force, you dont like them but they claim they love you by all means...really....

Those who enter the heart and feel peaceful and ask the question...How can I be of use in your life?...can we walk together, to know each other to reach the expected goal in life?

Which type of friends are you accomadating in your life. You need to stop for a while and do some qualitative analysis. Do not fear to call them who they ought to be called.

There are people you are forcing yourself to live with yet they have forced themselves into your heart but may not be as important as you may think. Some may not be annointed for you, allow them out and freely let them free like a bird out of its nest.

You have to learn to listen to your inner voice, intution or whatever you want to call it. Sometimes we give people the very weapons they use to destroy us. Always warming their way into our lives, pretending to be our friends.

Friends will betray us, you stop calling everybody a friend. That is the nour  few earn and fewer keep. Always God will show us the difference. Make sure friendships are balanced, spiritually mature. Those who dont suit your requirement stay away from them  and pray for them.

When you meet new people, accept them, see their intentions, where do I want them in my life if at all, I pray for them. Only God can give us unconditional friendship we seek from others.  Where there is no one else, God  will be there for us. He knows our thoughts, wishes, needs and desires. Our friends are mere mortals and we can't be expected expected to know everything there is to know about us.

There will time friends will disappoint us, do things to us we never thaought they would. In every relationship where our heart is a factor, we are vulnerable.

When we give permission to someone to love us, we also give them the power to hurt us. If a real friend disappoints, we should face it, own up to our part in it, heal the wounds and move on. After all, scripture tells us in Poverbs 27:6 "Wounds from a friend can be trusted, but an enemy multiples kisses."

Real friend is about trust, support and forgiveness. If you are nor sure about your friendship, pray about it, Ask the Lord to show you what is really in your friend's heart. But be ready.

Be careful of what you are praying for, you just might get it. Too often we want truth, but aren't prepared to deal with the difficulties that come with it.

If you ask God to give you something and then He delivers it, dont complain that it is not exactly what you were expecting.
He will show you a friend and then...really and you have to accept and pray for God's will to be done.

The lord has blessed ud with true friends, we should be thankful. Real friends must be cherished and protected. Once you get a true friend you can endure all of life's challenges with, bold on that person at all costs.

The friendship will never be easy but it will be worth it. Friendship like love, will always find a way.

Thursday, September 28, 2017



''Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his/her fellow; but woe to him/her who is alone when he/she falls and has not another to lift him/her up.
And though a man/woman might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him/her. A threefold cord is not quickly broken" (Ecclesiastes 4:9-10,12) (RSV).

A true friend is a blessing from God and he/she needs a great nurturing and kept as a true treasure as the rare and wonderful gift of the heart. This friend includes God. He bonds the code very well and He maintains it.

We all need someone we share our thoughts, joys, sorrows, pains, doubts, confusion with. This is the value of friendship. But the highest value of friendship is attained when two people come together to serve God and to do His will. When this happens nothing is impossible and great things can be accomplished. The catch frase is the "to do God's will."

Friends need each other, time to time. Your friend should know you very well enough to factor in exactly what to do or say. Have you ever wondered why God such things happen in your friendship? He joins us in friendship to learn from each other, to work on joint project together. He wants that we provide each other with comfort and solacein time of need. someone who is never afraid to call a spade a spade. Just being there and offer your support. (Job 2:11-13).

Friendship requires time and commitment. A true friend is not someone who is simply there for us when it's beneficial. A real friend is there even when it's incovenient. Real friendship involves compromise and acceptance.

Developing the trust that any meaningful relationship requires takes time. One has to be patient with friends, but it is equally important that we be honest with ourselves and others with whom we are blessed to build a friendship.

"There are friends who pretend to be friends,
but there is a friends who sticks
closer than a brother". (Proverbs 18:24).

You may spend alot of these "fake friends" and get quite close to them, but if you think about it, most of your time is probably spent doing nonproductive things. We have to watch whom we entangle ourselves with in the name of friendship.

"Make no friendsship with a man
given to anger,
norgo with awrathful man,
lest you learn his ways and
entangle yourself in a snare.... " (Proverbs 22:24-25).

It is very important to sorround yourself with positive people, going from ten fake friends to one good friend, but you are better off, and better for it. It is your friendship that will bring you back to the centre. To have a friend you  have to be friendly, nothing more than that. If you are fortunate to have good friends, jajajajajaja count your blessings.

A real friend will tell you when you are doing wrong, has your interest at heart and tells you what is right too.

A real friend is there when you need him/her even though you may only see the person from time to time. You can go a month or maybe even a year without talking, but when you finally connect, you simply pick up right from where you left.

When you are in trouble the person is there for you, even if it means dropping, everything and flying halfway around the world...a friend will.

A real friend accepts you the way you are. They dont care about your job title or the car you drive or your social status. They dont have to dress like you or talk like you or try to duplicate each other. You dont have to compete with your friends, a friend respects your individuality.

Wednesday, September 27, 2017


Forgiveness does not necessarily mean that you keep the person close to you, but you do continue to pray for them. Find a way to get over that which is lacking or painful.

1.      Find a way to move on with your life. This can be realized by finding a place to pray. In silence, the heart is able to converse with Jesus. Close the outside world and love that your inner life, for you can’t give what you don’t have to anybody.
2.      Take along with you a picture of the person you want to release to God. It may be a relative, a family member, a colleague, a person you have been struggling to forgive and let go.
3.      Maybe you want to light a candle, listen to relaxing instrumental music. Feel it. Now let go the anger, the frustration, the hurt. Stop hurting yourself thinking others will suffer because you are suffering.
4.      Convince yourself that you want the best of in you and only you has the way forward of the type of outlook you want to portray or carry.
Sincerely surrender your life to God in your anger and struggles, don’t keep anything to yourself as turn back or throw back. We are usually afraid that once I let go, (name that you want to let go) what will I do to occupy myself with, so we continue carrying our grudges as an occupation yet it turns out to be occupational hazard to our health and spiritual growth. Allow yourself to be healed by the lord of your pains, and if you really and sincerely mean it, let God’s will be done.
We all have the need to feel we belong somewhere, to somebody at the end of the day. That sense of belonging drives us to come out of ourselves to a beloved friend or family members helps us out of it. It will all will depend to our disposition whether we need help or not, it’s all up to you and what you have formed and informed your mind on the way forward.
This feeling of closeness is to have something tangible to hold on to. What are you holding on so dearly that is costing your peace, tranquility and sobriety. Sometimes things we hold on thinking are very important and essential are never worth it. For example, getting angry with your parents, brothers and sisters or in-laws for many years is it worth it? or its simply pride, arrogance mixed with ignorance that inflates us to have a lot of air, forgetting someone can pierce our ego and we deflate to zero. Is it worth it?
 It’s all up to you and all see through the mirror of your heart and lenses of your soul. See what the Father has given us, that we should be called children of God; and so, we are. The Reason why the world doesn’t know us is that it did not know Him.  (I John 3:1).RSV
When a family member is experiencing pain, we feel it too. But we can’t let it overcome us to the point where the whole family suffers. We need to understand deeply the ties that bind, but also be aware that we can’t let those ties that bind us up in unhealthy relationship to ruin us. Once you find yourself in relationship that does work, quit and move on with life, reconcile, seek help, pray about it. At the end of the day it’s all up to you not the person you think you hate.
We go through struggles but these challenges we ought to share with someone we trust. You can’t bare the struggle alone, you will break down and even breakdowns are often and occasionally take for repairs. You risk carrying a load of stress and fatigue beyond your human capacity and complicating your life balancing act.
There will be a family member struggling with some problem. It’s time to take it to the lord, not to leave it there, but the best thing we can do for a struggling family member is to ask the Holy Spirit to intercede on his/her behalf. Often time, once we are in pain, challenged, troubled, we have no time to pray, someone else has to help us to pray. Harken to the sound of my cry, my King and my God, for thee do I pray. O LORD, in the morning thou dost hear my voice; in the morning I prepare a sacrifice for thee and watch. Psalm 5:2-3.
We ought to encourage our struggling family members to surrender, take heart and persevere through the storms and find refuge in God’s strength, it’s through the cross that we find our strength. Whatever cross you are carrying, God can’t give you a cross beyond your capacity and strength.
The LORD is the keeper; the LORD is your shade on the right hand. The sun shall not smite you by day, nor the moon by night. The LORD will keep you from evil; he will keep your life. The LORD will keep your going out and your coming in from this time forth and for evermore. Psalm 121:5-8
Take the spiritual high road, offer that person you are struggling with unconditional love with a conditional exposure to your life, and pray sincerely for him or her. Loosening ties with toxic loved ones, and by all means do so. It will do you some good.
Keep your beloved family members at heart but that doesn’t mean you take their afflictions to be your own. None of our families are perfect, we are after all human. But let’s remember first and foremost we are children of God and God is never dysfunctional. He created us whole without equal. Whatever the challenge our family members or beloved ones have, we do not have to take those challenges as our own and carry them forward. Although our parents gave birth to us, God made us. God doesn’t make mistakes.
Some families see each other only at weddings and funerals moments or gatherings, seldom on Sunday mornings, those who go to church together, some family members simply decide to stay at home to sleep a little more, or some simply go to different churches, or some simply don’t go to church at all. They resigned and retired from the church, waiting only for their bodies to be presented on the funeral service. They see the church as a petrol stations, not a family of believers.
We have become notorious with keeping our children with a lot of activities of the world, that we have no time for God. God becomes an entry into our calendars or date books and try as we might that we just can’t seem to squeeze Him in. God is the last resort, when our families are torn stressed or being torn apart. We need to put God at the forefront of our families. The demands on the family can become as an excuse for not going to church on regular basis.


1.      Stick with the same prayer time every day, for practice makes perfect
2.      Try to select the time when the family demands are not so much, be organized.
3.      Tell whomever needs to know so that they won’t interrupt, that you are closing your door so you and God can have time alone, when they have to call you on phone. Switch it off. The world will not end or leave it in your kitchen or sitting room, thanks be to God for technology, after you will be informed who tried to get in touch during your offline.
4.      Reinforce family prayer time.
5.      Children should be encouraged to ask God for guidance, intervention, comfort, and love.


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